Thursday, April 29, 2010

Simple guidelines for happiness



Simple Guidelines For Happiness
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1) Free your heart from hate

2) Free your mind from worry

3) Live simple

4) Give more

5) Expect less

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Importance of Reading to Children


When my kids were still babies, i have read somewhere in the paper about this 4 yrs old preschooler who able to read simple words and i was amazed by that fact.
I was asking myself, "4 yrs old knows how to read..REALLY??!!" So i always bring the kids to the library and even bought them book hoping that they will love to read like their mummy...not like their daddy who don't love to read.hahaha....well, it's never too soon to start our children on the path to reading
I told Dh about the importance of reading skill development for our children and he supported me by converting his free time at home just to guide them reading simple words from Peter and Jane books...(this is what i love about him...that he don't just give me verbal commitment but in action...way to go DADDY!) and when the kids about 4yrs 3 months old...THEY CAN READ all the words from their Peter and Jane books..
Now we have proceeded to level 2A and 2B of Peter and Jane books. And they can read at least 80% of that books. Thanks to Dh's colleagues who recommended us these books ...so i'm really proud of them to be able to read at this young age. And i can see their love for reading without me pushing them towards it. Sometimes they will asked me about unrecognised words in the newspaper or in my scattered magazine, just to know how it pronounce. I guess if we really put something on our mind, insyaallah we can do it...nothing is impossible or at least try, try and try..

Wednesday, April 21, 2010

It's simply about the choice that we make.

A friend asked me this today, " Linda...kalau yor hubby found someone new and wanted to leave you, what would you do?" And i say, "hhmm....kalau dia berselingkuh dgn org lain dan sampai tak hiraukan allah, our marriage and the kids, i would let him go and be with that woman if that makes him happy, tak rela aku kalau dia berterusan melakukan dosa." And my friend said, " Huh dgn mudahnya kau mengalah?" And i said," Pada kau aku mengalah tapi pada aku...itu adalah kerugian suami aku.(doesn't mean to sound kerek, hehe) I will tell him that if he's willing to let go of me who love him like no other and always think of his interest first, who take care of the family, who at least try to cook delicious food when he's at home, who makes him feel that he is the head of family, who redha with his whatever final decision, who nurture his children, who never allowed him to wear crease clothing, who never fails to celebrate his birthday even in a small way, who treats his mother respectfully. I am not a materialistic woman....i never asked to be so rich, i never asked for a very big house or condo, i never asked for a car, i never asked for a maid but what i keep repeating like a broken record to my hubby is that i wanted to grow old together, go pasar and sarapan together, enjoying our 'senja' time together with love. I always trying to be a good wife, a good friend to him, a good mother and most importantly a good human being and most importantly insyaallah a good muslim. So in some way or another, i believe that i will get a good ending insyaallah even when he choose not to be with me . I believe in doing the right thing no matter what obstacles i may have. And that's my principle and my faith in Allah..and may Allah bestow his blessings on me. If he really can't see all that...then it will be his loss...or maybe it's just our fate and redha that allah has a better plan for all of us. My friend paused a short while and said, " Insyaallah laki kau tak buat mcm gitu....memang dia akan rugi kalau dia nak lepaskan kau (aww...so sweet).." I thanked her for saying that and prayed for my happiness but for now ..... let's just live in the moment where my hubby is the best husband, the best father and i'm thankful for that....Alhamdulliah. Leading a happy life is actually an easy task...it's simply about the choice that we make.

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

Jauhi khidmat bomoh guna sihir.

I took this from a darulnuman forum and this person post this based on berita harian at malaysia which i find it interesting and informative.

Jauhi khidmat bomoh guna sihir
Oleh Lokman Ismail


MENGIKUT Kamus Dewan, gelaran bomoh, dukun, tukang tenung dan pawang mempunyai makna berbeza, tetapi membawa maksud hampir sama. Dalam maksud umum, penggunaan perkataan bomoh lebih kerap digunakan bagi menjelaskan orang yang mengubat orang sakit dengan cara tradisional dan jampi.


Di kalangan orang Melayu, bomoh dianggap istimewa dapat menyembuhkan penyakit misteri yang tidak mampu diubati secara perubatan moden. Keberkesannya diakui oleh pakar perubatan moden sendiri, biarpun sukar untuk dikaitkan dengan apa yang berlaku berdasarkan kepada hukum tabii.

Malah, khidmat bomoh juga digunakan untuk menghalau gangguan makhluk halus, pengikat kasih, membuang sial dan mencari barang hilang. Cara bomoh mengendalikan rawatan dan amalan perbomohan berbeza mengikut keistimewaan masing-masing. Sebab itu ia sukar untuk diterjemahkan dalam kefahaman biasa manusia. Kebolehan bomoh yang dianggap istimewa menjadikan ia pilihan menyelesaikan masalah berkaitan. Memandangkan cara setiap bomoh berbeza, maka tidak dapat dijangka apakah cara sebenarnya. Sebab itu, sesiapa yang menemui bomoh bersedia untuk disuruh melakukan apa saja. Hal ini diambil kesempatan oleh bomoh tidak bertanggungjawab. Kes orang menjadi mangsa bomoh kerap dilaporkan. Disebabkan percayakan bomoh, ada mangsa diperkosa, membayar wang puluhan ribu, mengalami kecederaan dan dibunuh.

Dari sudut agama, amalan perbomohan perlu mengikuti kriterianya. Sekiranya tidak teliti dan tidak memahami panduan ditetapkan syariat, amalan perbomohan mudah menghampirkan seseorang kepada syirik. Hal ini menyebabkan bomoh, orang mempercayai bomoh dan sesiapa terkhinzirt dalam amalan perbomohan itu melakukan dosa syirik. Amalan bomoh mudah terkhinzirt perbuatan syirik disebabkan meminta pertolongan makhluk halus iaitu jin dan syaitan. Kebolehan dan keistimewaan bomoh dibantu oleh ilmu kebatinan yang dilakukan dengan pertolongan jin. Untuk itu, bomoh membela jin sebagai khadam membantu kerja perbomohan. Istilahmenurun’, jampi dan pengeras biasa digunakan dalam perbomohan. Ketika menurun, jin biasanya meresap ke dalam tubuh bomoh atau orang sakit sehingga menampakkan sifat berlainan. Jin membuat tugas bagi pihak bomoh. Ia melakukan sesuatu luar biasa pada pandangan manusia, sedangkan itu sifat biasa dikurniakan Allah terhadap jin. Menundukkan jin untuk tujuan mempermudahkan urusan manusia diharuskan. Nabi Sulaiman menggunakan bala tentera di kalangan manusia dan jin. Malah, jin dan malaikat sentiasa membantu manusia dalam hal-hal tertentu. Tetapi, hanya orang tertentu diberikan keistimewaan ini oleh Allah. Individu ini mendapat sesuatu yang tidak diberikan kepada orang biasa. Sebaliknya, secara umumnya hubungan bomoh dengan jin belaannya bukan satu anugerah istimewa. Ramai memperoleh bantuan jin (bahkan syaitan) dengan cara amalan salah. Mereka bukan menguasai jin, tetapi jin menguasai mereka. Bomoh dan jin mempunyaiperjanjiandan syarat yang memkhinzirtkan amalan syirik. ]

Amalan pemujaan jin, menunaikan permintaan jin dan melanggar hukum agama menjadi syarat yang biasa ditetapkan oleh jin. Syarat bukan saja dikehendaki melakukan kejahatan, bahkan tidak dibenarkan melakukan perkara kebaikan. Semua amalan itu perbuatan syirik, yakni mempercayai kekuasaan lain selain Allah. Syarat dikenakan jin untuk menyesatkan manusia jauh daripada ajaran Islam sebenar. Syarat itu bergantung kepada apa yang diminta oleh bomoh. Ada syarat melakukan pembunuhan, menodai gadis atau memuja mayat. Semua itu perbuatan dosa besar. Sesungguhnya syaitan adalah musuh manusia yang nyata. Syaitan sekali-kali tidak akan membantu manusia, melainkan berjaya menyesatkan manusia dengan pertolongan itu. Bantuan yang diberikan itu sekadar untuk meyakinkan manusia terhadap kebolehannya dan memberi ruang masa yang lebih panjang untuk memperdaya manusia dengan cara perbomohan.


Bomoh cari barang hilang memperlihatkan kebolehan mengesan barang yang hilang atau dicuri. Ia satu pertolongan jin untuk mengetahui lokasi barang itu. Di sebalik pertolongan itu, jin memasang perangkap dengan mengaitkan kehilangan itu dengan perbuatan orang lain. Makluman jin itu mencetus pelbagai andaian sehingga lahir perasaan curiga, permusuhan, dendam dan perpecahan sesama manusia. Banyak ikatan persaudaraan, persahabatan dan kerjasama putus akibat angkara tipu daya syaitan yang dilakukan melalui perbomohan.

Sebab itu, Islam mengharamkan perbuatan menilik. Dalam bahasa Arab ia disebut araf atau kahin. Sebuah hadis bermaksud: “Barang siapa datang kepada tukang tenung (bomoh), kemudian dia membenarkan perkataannya, maka sembahyangnya tidak diterima oleh Allah selama 40 hari.” (Hadis riwayat Muslim). Dalam hadis lain diriwayatkan oleh Abu Daud dari Abu Hurairah bermaksud: Barang siapa mendatangi kahin (dukun) dan membenarkan apa yang mereka katakan, sungguh ia kafir terhadap apa yang diturunkan kepada Muhammad.”

Jelas sekali larangan itu kerana banyak keburukan akibat percayakan bomoh. Syaitan menjadikan perantaraan bomoh untuk melakukan perkara haram. Firman Allah bermaksud: “Wahai orang yang beriman, sesungguhnya arak, judi dan bertenung nasib adalah najis (haram), dan ia adalah perbuatan syaitan.” (Surah al-Maidah, ayat 90). Upacara perbomohan juga ada memkhinzirtkan amalan sihir yang diharamkan dalam Islam. Sihir adalah kuasa luar biasa yang memkhinzirtkan pertolongan jin dan syaitan. Tanpa pertolongan itu, manusia tidak mungkin dapat melakukannya.


Kebolehan luar biasa manusia di kalangan nabi dipanggil mukjizat dan di kalangan manusia biasa dipanggil keramat. Manusia biasa mendapat keramat di atas ketakwaan dan keimanan yang kuat. Pun begitu, orang mendapat keramat tidak menggunakan sesuka hati, bahkan seboleh-bolehnya merahsiakan kebolehan itu untuk mengelak salah faham masyarakat. Upacara perbomohan atau berjumpa bomoh untuk tujuan kebaikan tidak ditegah jika dilakukan mengikut tuntutan syariat. Jabatan Kemajuan Islam Malaysia (Jakim) menggariskan panduan atau syarat menentukan perbomohan itu dibenarkan syariat. Di antara syarat itu ialah tidak menggunakan bentuk amalan sihir, ilmu hitam dan tilik. Ia juga tidak mengaitkan pengeras dengan sesuatu akibat. Selain itu, tidak memkhinzirtkan perbuatan berunsur syirik seperti pemujaan dan sembelihan binatang. Bacaan dalam perbomohan juga tidak memkhinzirtkan unsur meminta pertolongan daripada kuasa ghaib. Pada masa sama tidak ditetapkan pantang larang yang jelas bercanggah dengan Islam. Sekiranya syarat itu dipatuhi, harus kita berjumpa bomoh untuk berusaha berubat dan tujuan tertentu. Perbuatan itu sebagai satu usaha seperti memakan ubat atau mendapat khidmat nasihat doktor.


Perbezaan di antara bomoh dan doktor hanya dari segi cara perubatannya. Islam mengharuskan dilakukan usaha berubat dengan cara bacaan doa dan ayat al-Quran. Kedua-duanya diharuskan sebagai usaha memohon kepada Allah agar menyembuhkan penyakit atau menunaikan sesuatu hajat. Kelebihan al-Quran sebagai mukjizat yang tiada tandingannya memang dibenarkan. Ia boleh dijadikan sebahagian daripada doa atau memohon pertolongan daripada Allah. Rasulullah sering menyuruh orang yang sakit agar membaca al-Quran secara keseluruhannya atau ayat tertentu sebagai satu doa. Firman Allah bermaksud: “Dan Kami turunkan daripada al-Quran sesuatu yang menjadi penawar dan rahmat bagi orang yang beriman.” (Surah al-Isra, ayat 82).


Seharusnya kita dapat membezakan di antara amalan perbomohan dibenarkan syariat atau tidak. Perkara ini penting bagi mengelak diri daripada terus berada dalam keadaan syirik kepada Allah. Sesiapa melakukan dosa syirik tidak diampunkan dosanya, melainkan kembali mengucapkan kalimah syahadat. Sebarang masalah yang dihadapi ada jalan penyelesaiannya mengikut aturan agama. Allah memberi pertolongan kepada sesiapa bermohon kepadanya dan bersungguh-sungguh melakukan apa yang sepatutnya. Yakinlah, syaitan tidak pernah melakukan kebaikan kepada manusia. Sekiranya ada pertolongan diberikan, ia hanya satu tipu daya membawa kepada keburukan dan perbuatan keji. Firman Allah bermaksud: “Hai orang beriman! Janganlah kamu turut langkah syaitan. Dan sesiapa yang menurut langkah syaitan, sesungguhnya syaitan itu menyuruh mengerjakan perbuatan keji dan kesalahan.” (Surah an-Nur, ayat 21)

Monday, April 19, 2010

St12 concert

We went in early...thanks to my kiasu husband. His pet peeve is that he don't like to be late for shows, concert or even to the movies...It's a big no no for him...But it was full house by 8.30pm.

This was from our view...not bad, i think.

After the show ended.


We waited for almost 1/2hr for him to make another appearance.
ST 12 performed for the first time in Singapore at Rock Auditorium. It was a great live performance!
One thing i like about this one is that the place was not insanely big so we feel upclose and personal to the band.
Dh sang along with the crowd to every song Charlie sang!! haha I personally love love love the song Memuja mu by them and it was the first song in the concert...Great!
Charlie came down several times to be nearer to his fans and they were all hugging him, pulling him here and there to take pictures and even this pakcik kissed him on the cheek. Pakcik so cheeky, huh....hahaha..
The singer was full of energy like a mischievous child-like behaviour, he was so much fun to watch and his sense of humor still definitely a bonus! I'm glad that Dh had a great time...and i'm happy for him. St12 gave us a preview sneak peek of his new song that will be released soon and it was quite nice...i know that my brother (Kandar) also madly insanely is a fan of St12 and he really gonna regret it if he knew how great it was.

Friday, April 16, 2010

Saturday at Swensen

Totally forgotten about what's this called...i think something about baked pasta with meatballs.

Aniq trying to achieve the goofy look like his Ayah........we ordered Breaded Chicken for them to share..

This is mine...first time trying it...this is Apricot fried fish(i think) what's wrong with me that i can't remeber all the name...i guess i'm too hungry to drill the names into my head....seems like my taste bud is the only organ/sense that was working that time....lol... Anyway it was very nice...i asked for tartar sauce because it did not come with it... Tartar sauce is a must for me when eating Fried fish like this even though the Apricot sauce is fabulous.


Aniq and Aliah had good appetite and polished their plate clean...Good job guys!! I always told them that kalau membazir makanan nanti Allah marah....and so far it's been working good for me! I hate wastage of food....seriously...



When the waitress pour some water to the dry ice...as i expected, of course white smoke was formed and Aliah was caught off guard and say " OH MY GOD!!". It was hilarious and we were all laughed at her. I learnt about dry ice when i was in secondary school and remembered being intrigued and blown away by it ..so can't blame Aliah for her exaggerate action. Haha....


This is our favourite ice-cream...Sticky Chewy chocolate ice-cream.Hmmm yum yum....
Actually i just missed Swenson's Ice-creams but end up getting our dinner as well........
I shared this with Dh because i don't think i can finished it all by myself especially i just finished my dinner....I'm a type of person who will miss this food and that food but i will be fully satisfied after having 2-3 bites of it...i was quite a big eater when i was a teenage and in my early twenties but as time goes by...nah...well not so much. Now i can understand why old people seldom eat or eat very little...
Opps i went side track a bit....ok back to the main road
I had fun last weekend, feeling pretty with my new dress (feeling je) and the St12 concert rocks...will do the review in a bit.....




Thursday, April 15, 2010

Anti-aging night cream/lotion

Right now, i am looking for a night cream. Just making observation first what's there on the shelf cause i'm broke right now so i anxiously waiting for this week to end quickly and painless..lol...

I know that i can use any regular miosturiser for my night too but 2 of my day moisturiser have spf in it so i can't use it cause i don't want to irritate my skin . Lately i've been obsessed surfing about skincare ingredients...what's ingredients is good or whatnot for my skin.

What I am looking for is something that will really nourish my skin overnight, giving my skin a good texture and contain some anti-aging stuff. Well, i'm in my 30's now and i need more stuff in my moisturiser now but prefer it to be non-comodogenic since i have oily and acne-prone skin. This may sound like a tall order but can't blame for at least trying to achieve that for my skin, of course something won't burn a hole in my pocket while attempt to look good. haha..

This coming month even after payday, i have to remind myself that i can't buy new clothes or whatever that was written on my wishlist...only stuff that i need not that i want....but i'm still grateful...grateful about what?? i don't know ...just GRATEFUL maybe because i just don't want to sigh...

ok, back to my night cream( this is what i need not want, according to me)

thought of getting one of these listed below.

1) Olay Regenerist Daily Regenerating Serum( heard good stuff about this one)
2)L'Oreal Derma Genesis Night Cream
3) Vichy anti-imperfection hydrating care (most probably not this one..not yet for me cause this is quite expensive...i think it's $49)
4)Total Effects Night Firming Cream

Well...still keeping my eyes open but if i were to decide now, it probably will be no.1 or no.2......

Saturday, April 10, 2010

5 Random facts about me....

******** I cannot sleep without a blanket and 2 pillow (one for the head and one between my legs). That's why i have trouble sleeping at other people's home.

******** Always craves for Tahu Sumbat in fasting month.

********Unknowingly i sometimes speak like Yoda in Star Wars...that means i speak backwards. And it is cute and my speciality according to him (the hubby)...

********I loves spontaneous or being crazy once a while but i'm definitely not a risk taker....losing my father, my grandfather and my grandmother (all paternal side) at young age make me realise that life is too short and i don't like to gamble it away or be careless....

********I simply adore sour foods. I can suck lime juice literally out the lime fruit while watching TV..it's definitely extremely sour but it's EXCITING to me!

Friday, April 9, 2010

I'm in dilemma...

How much truth you can offer to your best friend even though the truth is bitter? Do you think it's really okay to tell a friend to get a divorce? I have my principle that I'll never tell someone to get a divorce even to the extend that it seems like the only way out....

Since one has decided to take someone as a spouse ...it's also should be ownself decision to get a divorce, in my opinion ...

Of course we all wish to have a happy successful marriage, but Pertemeuan, perpisahan, kehidupan dan kematian adalah ketentuan Allah s.w.t. I know that you’re not sure what to do or who to turn to for advice, that is why you threw all those question at me and i just don't know what to answer you. I know that right now that you feel alone and confuse.

The only advise i can give you .......dekatkan dirimu dgn Allah dan bersabar sambil berusha kerana Allah akan berpihakkan kpd org yang bersabar...insyaallah.



 
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